tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post9104749292263405597..comments2023-11-02T17:02:56.952+05:30Comments on Life's like that...: Whose life is it anyway?Imp's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05929632710630026681noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-15903194950025775132015-01-29T17:23:08.559+05:302015-01-29T17:23:08.559+05:30Very nice post. Liked reading it. Thank u for the ...Very nice post. Liked reading it. Thank u for the share.Shreya at Jumbodiumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14540874111157808853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-2637498335611562612011-12-27T10:57:20.259+05:302011-12-27T10:57:20.259+05:30@Saintly Sita, totally agree. All I'm gonna sa...@Saintly Sita, totally agree. All I'm gonna say now is that am glad Wild child is in a happy place now and she is getting better.... and as for the rest...u knw wht they say...can't stop dog's from barking. <br /><br />And Welcome :) btw have moved to WP now --> http://shehnanigans.wordpress.com blog rarely though... :)Imp's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05929632710630026681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-23870681989747355802011-12-26T21:47:03.466+05:302011-12-26T21:47:03.466+05:30DQMe seems to instinctively know that the system s...DQMe seems to instinctively know that the system sucks for women, which is why he is trying so hard to defend it.<br /><br />I know it's a he, because only a man coulp put a spin on something that is fundamentally indefensible.<br /><br />No woman in her right mind would deny that The Wild Child was in a very difficult position.<br /><br />Trying to persuade a mama's boy into cutting the umbilical cord is almost bound to end in frustration and failure.<br /><br />Mostly because the poor sod of a man has no understanding of healthy intimate relationships.<br /><br />A wife and a mother share very different relationships with a man. <br /><br />Only moms and sons with serious emotional issues can think that these two are inherently at odds with each otherSaintly Sitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17168039504567010127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-7479383490460448022011-05-10T10:36:49.154+05:302011-05-10T10:36:49.154+05:30Hey Wild child! Heading over to your blog right no...Hey Wild child! Heading over to your blog right now..Imp's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05929632710630026681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-2289329643226616072011-05-10T09:53:30.054+05:302011-05-10T09:53:30.054+05:30Hi Imp's Mom. I walked out. And I blog now.
-F...Hi Imp's Mom. I walked out. And I blog now.<br />-Formerly Confused WifeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-20191898855008439732010-12-22T23:06:28.774+05:302010-12-22T23:06:28.774+05:30How are we different in our thoughts? I, of all th...How are we different in our thoughts? I, of all the people, will never justify the MIL. But its the wife's life and future. If the MIL is insulting her and family, its something that everyone needs to budge in and stop. Especially the husband. The wife, if I remember right, even said she didn't want to leave th husband for the fear that the MIL will be proven right! If thats not ego, then what is? Marriage is a balance, it takes years and lots of heartaches to reach it. I don't believe in encouraging the new generation to have broken marriages for such reasons. Be mature and sort it out! Confront the MIL! What worse can happen?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-50930190895546293442010-12-22T12:55:47.843+05:302010-12-22T12:55:47.843+05:30@IHM: Bang on as always!!
DQMe: I beg to differ, ...@IHM: Bang on as always!!<br /><br />DQMe: I beg to differ, individual live's living in community/society. All can live in harmony and peace with a simple rule - Give and get respect.<br /><br />And pls, 10 days the guy is with his mother, and instead of focusing on that, she chooses to insult his wife n her parents. Shower love on your son and if you cant do the same for his wife,be neutral, and see the difference it will create.Imp's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05929632710630026681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-45154889249458355422010-12-22T12:37:25.835+05:302010-12-22T12:37:25.835+05:30Hey Usha, bottom line ur here, u didn't forget...Hey Usha, bottom line ur here, u didn't forget..so pls dont apologise :))<br /><br />yeah Usha high time indeed we see a change...Imp's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05929632710630026681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-5741354234086635322010-12-15T22:23:54.263+05:302010-12-15T22:23:54.263+05:30@IHM - Nope. Its not ok for a married adult's ...@IHM - Nope. Its not ok for a married adult's parents to insult their partners. But, it happens. All parents want the best for their child. If the husband is having a bad patch at work and is going through a financial crisis, the girl's parents at times find fault with the husband. Its but natural. Such things happen in life always. In extreme cases, yes, it should be stopped. All I am saying is that if all women are taught to think only about their feelings and to think only about the injustice meted upon them, then we are in for a terrible future. Every woman will want a way out of the marriage. <br /><br />I read the letter you got from the anonymous wife about her MIL whom she visits maximum of 10 days in a year. I mean come on, 10 days the husband sees his mother. You expect him to fight with her. He is definitely a mama's boy. But I wouldn't ever advice her to leave the marriage because of it. She will need to find a way to get him to support her, and if she loves him enough, she will wait for him to see the injustice in all this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-91219129974356703872010-12-15T21:11:04.056+05:302010-12-15T21:11:04.056+05:30@ DQMe - Belonging to community and family should ...@ DQMe - Belonging to community and family should mean everybody benefits, not just a powerful few. If some community or family members feel they are being treated unfairly they will be justified in no longer wanting to belong to the family or the community. <br /><br />And do you think it would be okay for a married adult's parent to insult their partners? I feel parents only do that when they feel their child would allow it. <b>All family members - young and old, should be treated with respect.</b> This is the foundation on which a family bonds. <br /><br />Also generally a woman's spouse is not insulted but pampered by her parents. And most women would support their husbands in most circumstances - because they are conditioned to treat them like their 'pati-parmeshwar'. Men on the other hand are warned against putting their wives before their birth families. This is a dis-balance, one partner is expected to treat her in laws and spouse like her world, another is conditioned to expect without giving.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-74103500146458965262010-12-15T15:39:33.690+05:302010-12-15T15:39:33.690+05:30Good Question.Whose life is it anyway? No one'...Good Question.Whose life is it anyway? No one's life is just theirs. You belong to a community and most importantly you belong to a family. Even between spouses there are disagreements and issues. We all learn to solve them. Who supports whom then? Its always a personal issue. If your mom insults your husband or reprimands him for something, would you go against her as well? Relationships are sensitive. They have to be dealt that way. But of course, if the abuse goes out of hand, and your spouse doesn't support you at all, its time to get out of it. Yes, it is also a form of Domestic Violence then.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-15033589066610735862010-12-15T13:51:40.051+05:302010-12-15T13:51:40.051+05:30Would you like it if your wife just sat smug while...<i>Would you like it if your wife just sat smug while u were being insulted and actually told you that you deserved it? Wouldn't you want your wife to defend you?</i><br /><br />What some people seem to overlook is that on her own the woman can handle the insults fairly well, but the husband who refuses to interfere and defend her would not sit quietly if she does make an attempt to handle the situation on her own. What is expected of her is not only to manage on her own, but to manage it on their (husband's) terms - basically she is expected to allow his family to insult her. <br /><br />If the husbands truly left the handling her in laws to the wife, she would be able to convey that the respect has to be mutual and exploitation would mean her cutting off ties with them - most of the problems happen because she must not use her own judgment, capability or means to stop the abuse. And he won't either. The in laws know this too. Unlimited power and lack of accountability for the in laws lead to a lot of problem. Today when girls do have the option of walking out - they are walking out. This is a difficult change to accept by those who earlier took advantage of the unfair situation.<br /><br />So if she doesn't sacrifice and suffer and proves - happy or not, she wants the marriage to work, she risks being called a modern, independent woman (like what could be worst than that).Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-72052375539727171962010-12-11T17:31:32.888+05:302010-12-11T17:31:32.888+05:30Here, after a long long while! Sorry about that :)...Here, after a long long while! Sorry about that :)<br /><br />This one is to be underscored, each word of it! When a woman marries, in that very act there is much trauma, whether it is an arranged marriage or a love marriage. The trauma is always, but always more for the girl, I have seen. <br /><br />And beyond that what comes after, in the form of subtle or in your face verbal (I'm not even talking of the physical, or the fidelity aspect!) abuse is just too much! I think the conditioning is so deep that we, more often than not, give in. But with the paradigm shift in women's perceptions of themselves, there is however a small re- routing of one's own priorities. High time it happened. As you say..."Take charge of you life, woman!"<br /><br />Nice one, ImpsMom!Usha Pisharodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08569968324374522544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-53243212344633053122010-12-09T23:10:46.380+05:302010-12-09T23:10:46.380+05:30I knw what you mean Poohi, but I just wish I had m...I knw what you mean Poohi, but I just wish I had my answers, dont knw how they can stoop so low.Imp's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05929632710630026681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118084439834362281.post-57645990688346033212010-12-09T11:17:13.284+05:302010-12-09T11:17:13.284+05:30*sigh*
I have nothing to say about this. I have ...*sigh* <br /><br />I have nothing to say about this. I have found that.. its better to ignore such people than trying to make them understandWinnie the poohihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11445691463105808647noreply@blogger.com